You might recognize this
When the skills that keep you safe at work don’t switch off
Not a diagnosis. Only recognition.
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Still reading the room for danger, hours after the shift ends.
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The one everyone relies on, quietly wondering who holds it for you.
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Home with nothing left, and the creative life you used to have gone quiet.
You are not doing it wrong. A nervous system that learned to stay ready doesn’t stand down because the shift ended.
A little language for it
There are names for some of what caregivers carry
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Compassion fatigue
The slow erosion of caring for people in pain, day after day.
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Secondary traumatic stress
Absorbing other people’s worst moments as part of the job.
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Burnout
Real, and not always the whole story.
And sometimes a quieter question sits underneath: was some of the vigilance already there, before the first shift?
The workbook
I wrote a workbook that starts from that question
Both Sides of the Bed, my somatic workbook for nurses and healthcare workers, follows the shape a shift actually takes: eleven chapters built around it, before it, during it, after it, and the drive home, with practices that run under two minutes and were made for scrubs. It’s a 124-page ebook, $37, and everything inside is laid out on the workbook’s page before you decide anything.
The way back
Creativity is how you find your way back to yourself
The return happens in the body, and for many of us it runs straight through the fulfilling life that went quiet. Creating becomes the evidence that a different life is possible.
Where the edges are
What this is, and what it isn’t
You of all people know why the boundary matters.
This is trauma recovery coaching and education, not nursing, therapy, diagnosis, or medical treatment. If you’re in acute crisis or need clinical care, licensed care comes first, and coaching can walk beside it. The crisis resources at the bottom of this page are there for you right now.
If any of this sounds like you
Start gently, wherever you are
You don’t have to be ready. Willing is enough, and this one was written for you specifically rather than adapted for you afterwards.
From Both Sides of the Bed, a somatic workbook for nurses, available now as an ebook. Three practices you can use this week are on the page, and the full workbook is there when you want it.
Or take the free guide, What the Vigilance Costs You After the Shift Ends, Nurse to nurse.
When you want more: the Sunday Letter, the free Monthly Gathering, the ARC Program, or, when you’re ready to talk, book a call.